Introduction

For the last several years I have noticed a deep and divisive gulf between the daters and non-daters of the world. Having spent the bulk of my life in the latter category, I have been interested in switching over. Moving across the country to start a new life helped: within two months I was dating a great guy (and in fact even had to cancel a date with someone else when we decided to become exclusive).  The great guy and I decided to get married but then I decided to breakup with him.  It was tough, but I see clearly now (three months later) that it was for the best. 

The breakup has skyrocketed me into the dater category. I think it's at least partially because I'm accustomed to being loved and adored and think it's par for course now.

That is part of the secret to being a dater-- expecting to be pursued and adored. The other part of the secret is not caring whether you date or not. When a guy stops calling or doesn't even start calling, a dater barely notices as she moves on with her fabulous life.

I like being a dater. I am meeting and being pursued by several totally awesome guys. I love getting to know them, and it's always wonderful to remember how many wonderful men there are out there.

But it is not without its difficulties. All sorts questions and problems come up. For example, what does one do when you're asked out by a guy your friend has a crush on? How do you get anything else done when you go out with two different guys in one weekened? Why does a nice, freedom-loving girl like me keep attracting socialists? Furthermore, how are you suppose to keep everyone straight when you go out with three different guys in one week ("Did we discuss whether you support BYU or U of U?" "Are you the one with nine brothers and sisters?" "Where did you grow up again?" and my all-time least-favorite thing to have to ask: "Have I already told you this story?")?

Once the dating karma is flowing, it seems men don't even have to be in my presence to sense it. For example, I received an email via facebook yesterday from a total stranger. Here's my favorite part: "Truth me told, all I can say is I have seen shooting stars and have been a witness to many a miracle, but never have my eyes beheld nor have my ears heard of such a beautiful heaven sent angel." I will not be replying to said email, but I think it proves my point.

Now as I move forward with being a dater, my challenge will be to remain cool, calm, collected, and somewhat nonchalant as various dating companions become more attractive to me and I begin to really want a particular one (or two) to keep calling, texting, and asking me out. I must remain calm and (at least for now) emotionally detached. And I must remember the third secret to being a successful female dater: it is all about me! I am the prize to be chased, not someone who sits around pining. Yes, this is very empowering. No wonder so many men are attracted to me these days.

So, the point of this blog is to chronical my dating adventures in an anoymous blog where my dates won't find them but I can report to my friends.  Hehehe.  I love being sneaky.